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Resolutions for a Balanced New Year

I will choose and understand my life priorities before I entertain, let alone commit to, "measureable" goals. For example, "My son and I will have conversation today" is a much higher priority than "I will write 1000 words every day."  What I produce will not be deemed of greater value and importance than who I am and the connections I want to preserve with family and friends.

I will give more weight to my mental and physical health, and the needs of the actual human beings in my life, than I do to word counts, bookings, and schedules. Certainly there are those who will assume I'm speaking from a place of privilege, as someone who must be able to set aside Real Life Responsibilities for some squishy emotional goal. Nope. The past almost-ten years haven't been a stroll down the primrose path, darlings, and frankly, the journey was made more emotionally difficult by production-focused people at the edges of my life who looked down on my decision to invest time in my son and family rather than a monetary venture.  I wasted time feeling bad about their snubs. I won't do that again.

If a fill-in-the-blank guru tells me I must perform X tasks in order to reach Y goal, or I'm not really ever going to get Y goal, I will merely assume the guru is telling the truth and move on. It's very, very easy to get caught up in the Secret of Success Rhetoric. The industry is just as savvy as the diet industry when it comes to guilting people into handing over the lives (and money) in order to prove themselves Not A Loser. Many gurus thrive on enforcing methods that in reality force a person to neglect health, friendships, family, and life experiences for the sake of meeting goals, and will insinuate you're a lazy, unworthy person if you're not willing to make those sacrifices. There is no success I could achieve that would be worth such neglect.  I will not be shamed into acting otherwise.

I will more loudly rejoice when I do well. I will share my successes rather than humbly swallow them. Screw that Tall Poppy madness. I invite everyone else to do the same.

And above all, I wish everyone a 2016 that has more laughter than fear, more moments worth remembering than days worth forgetting, more tears shared in the company of others than wept alone, more encouragement in times of doubt than doubt in times of difficulty, and more time with people you love than longings for those beyond reach.


( 8 comments — Leave a comment )
Dec. 31st, 2015 09:08 pm (UTC)
What I produce will not be deemed of greater value and importance than who I am and the connections I want to preserve with family and friends.

A loud AMEN.
Jan. 2nd, 2016 12:53 am (UTC)
:) It's so easy to get caught up in Stuff. The past few years have changed my perspectives richly.
Dec. 31st, 2015 10:58 pm (UTC)
Best wishes to a wonderful new year for you in a wonderful new place!
Jan. 2nd, 2016 12:54 am (UTC)
I wish you and your family all the best, Sherwood. You remain one of my brightest inspirations.
Jan. 1st, 2016 02:59 am (UTC)
Such wonderful resolutions! Wishing you the most wonderful year ever in 2016!
Jan. 2nd, 2016 12:55 am (UTC)
I wish you that and more, hoping this year will be less ick and more contentment for you!!
Jan. 2nd, 2016 04:50 pm (UTC)
And may your New Year enhance that which was worthwhile in 2015, while adding to it new niftinesses entirely unsuspected in previous Years! :-)
Jan. 4th, 2016 09:37 pm (UTC)
Re: Huzzah!
That's a most marvelous wish! Thank you!!
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